Emotional:
- Joking and insults
- Ignoring or minimizing feelings
- Withholds approval and emotional support as punishment
- Yelling, name calling
- Repeated insults, degrading
- Targeted insults, or labeling
- Belittling and private humiliation
- Public humiliation
- Blaming and accusing
- Demands all attention
- Resentful of children or marriage
- Threats against children or marriage
- Threats to take the children
- Degrading role as mate, lover, or partner
- Giving mixed signals
- Lack of cause and effect
- Questions sense of reality
- Depression
- Nervous breakdown
- Mental illness
- Complete isolation/withdrawn
- Suicide by victim
Physical:
- Refusal to meet physical needs of dependents
- Push, shove
- Strangle, beat
- Jerk, slap, bite, pinch
- Shake, bruising
- Withholding sex and affection
- Hit, punch, kick
- Targeted hitting
- Repeated hitting
- Use of objects as weapons
- Throwing victim
- Restraining while hitting or punching
- Abuse during pregnancy
- Sleep deprivation
- Lacerations, broken bones, internal injuries
- Use of weapons
- Disabling or disfiguring
- Murder
Sexual:
- Sexual jokes or demeaning gender remarks
- Jealousy, assumes you are sexual with others
- Unwanted touching
- Criticism of sexuality
- Name calling with sexual epithets
- Forced to look at/engage in pornography
- Demanding monogamy from victim despite promiscuous behavior by batterer
- Coercive/demanding sex (use of threats)
- Humiliation
- Forceful sex (rape)
- Forced, uncomfortable sex
- Coercive/demanding sex after pregnancy or surgery
- Rape resulting in permanent injury
- Rape with imprisonment
- Rape with murder
Social/Environmental
- Uses gender myths and roles. Eliminate support system
- Uses sexism, racism and/or homophobia. Prevents victim from learning English, degrades culture, religion or nationality
- Alienates victim’s family/friends profession, gender. Threatens to ‘out’ lesbian or gay
- Destroys or damages victim’s property. Tells victim they are always in control
- Demonstration of strength. Complete isolation
- Controls major decisions. Child abuse/incest
- Enforces economic dependence. Destroys/maims family pet
- Controls money/finances. Deprives victim of food, medicine, sleep
- Denies access to work/gets them fired. Convinces victim they are hysterical, paranoid
- Threatens to hurt victim’s extended family
- Threatens to report to immigration. Suicide
Information given here is credited to Metropolitan King County Council April 2002
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